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SOUL MATE COMPATIBILITY
Question: "If you meet your soul mate is it obvious immediately? Do soul mates ever stop being soul mates?"
Soul mates never stop being soul mates, but they can choose whether to be involved with each other in a particular lifetime, and to what degree. Soul mates are part of a soul family that incarnate together lifetime after lifetime playing different roles for one another. Sometimes soul mates can incarnate as a mother and child, or as same sex friends, or as business partners, or as life partners, etc. A soul mate relationship is always one of profound love, but it is not always intimate love.
is it obvious immediately?
Some people feel soul mate compatibility the moment they meet their soul mate. However, some people can be afraid of the depth of love that a soul mate relationship can offer, so they may throw up walls or sabotage the relationship entirely - they may only be able to fully recognize their soul mate once they are no longer together. This is very sad and painful for both parties as it will affect their entire life path, and the life paths of everyone else involved, including any children that may have been part of their sacred contract.
Relationship and love with a soul mate
Soul mates have a sacred contract to help each other to learn and grow in a particular lifetime by agreeing to play various roles for each other. This is not always pleasant, as soul mates must often challenge each other in order to foster growth and evolution. Having a relationship and love with a soul mate does not guarantee a fairy tale romance; however, the love between them is very profound, so it can create a sense of safety even in the most challenging times. When soul mates reject or hurt each other, the pain deeply affects the heart and the soul, which can be devastating and difficult to recover from, but it also causes the soul to stretch and evolve profoundly.
Soul mate compatibility
When a soul mate relationship is harmonious, it creates a true partnership. Soul mates are highly compatible, and complement each other beautifully. When they work together, they can create magic as long as they work in co-operation and are not in competition with each other. Soul mates will have a lot in common; sometimes they can even be too much alike, which can either create harmony or friction, depending on how much each of them can love and accept themselves as well as the reflection they see in their partner.
Soul mate indicators
There is a different feeling that comes when you are with your soul mate. Soul mate indicators include feeling a sense of peace and calm immediately with that person, and feeling as if you've known them forever. Sometimes, there can be karmic issues from other lifetimes that can bring up some feelings of fear, uneasiness, or unfinished business. For the most part, being with a soul mate gives you a feeling of ease, and allows you to be yourself and to know that you are loved and accepted for who you really are.
Difference between soul mate and true love
A soul mate relationship can be a little like being on a roller coaster ride together through the ups and downs of life. Sometimes, the soul mate relationship itself can be like a roller coaster in order to foster growth for both souls, or the soul mates can be more like partners navigating the hills and valleys of life together hand-in-hand. A soul mate relationship is a very profound love, but it may not feel like "head-over-heels" love. What many people call "true love" is actually a feeling of passion, but passion often fades over time. Soul mate relationships are not usually based on passion, and passion may or may not exist in a soul mate relationship. Passion is a primal physical form of love that is temporary, while soul mate love transcends the physical and is a true love on the soul level that endures through lifetimes.
What is the difference between soulmates and twin flames?
Soul mates are part of the same soul family. They incarnate together and play different roles for each other, not necessarily in intimate relationships. You can have many soul mates, but you only have one twin flame. Your twin flame is actually the other half of you: when souls first emerge, they are hermaphrodites - half male and half female. These souls often split so they can have more experiences to hasten the growth and evolution of the soul as a whole. It is very rare to meet your twin flame incarnate at the same time, in the same place and even on the same planet. Being with a twin flame will feel like you are whole and that you have come home to yourself - twin flames will never want to be separate from each other once they are reunited.
How to know when you found your soul mate
There is a very magnetic attraction between soul mates, and you can often feel the presence of your soul mate approaching even before you can see them. Seeing or thinking about your soul mate will make you smile inside, but it does not usually create a feeling of "butterflies" or "fireworks". It is a feeling of calm, of familiarity, of safety. Even when you are not with them, you can feel them with you in your heart and in your mind.
Can you attract your soul mate to you?
The best way to attract your soul mate to you is to love yourself, because this creates a radiant light around you that is irresistibly attractive. By shining the light of love around you, you become a beacon for your soul mate to find you. The more you love yourself and act in loving ways, the more you resonate on the frequency of love to attract love. This can hold true even if you want to attract a soul mate that you have already let go of.
Goodbye to a soul mate
Saying goodbye to a soul mate is often devastating for one or both parties, but sometimes, it may be necessary. If both soul mates have completed their sacred contract with each other, then they may feel prompted to move on from the relationship in order to continue to grow - however, they will often remain close to each other throughout the rest of their lifetime even if they are no longer together. If the sacred conract is complete, then it will usually be a peaceful and amicable parting. If the soul mate relationship is ended before the sacred contract is complete, it will leave both parties with feelings of pain, frustration, anger and restlessness knowing that they have unfinished business which must be completed in this lifetime or another - this will bind both parties to each other and may hold them both back from their own growth and evolution.
Do soul mates ever stop being soul mates?
Soul mates never stop being soul mates, even if they choose not to be together in a particular lifetime - soul mates are tied to each other throughout eternity. Their love is always profound, even if it is not always pleasant. A soul mate relationship always seeks to support both parties in their growth and evolution through life's challenges. Once love is created, it is never destroyed; love is never lost, but people can choose whether or not they treat each other in loving ways. A soul mate relationship always desires healing, and healing is always possible with soul mates as long as both parties are willing to co-operate.
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