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"ARE THERE SIGNS TO TELL
IF SOMEONE IS LYING?"

Question: "How can you tell if your boyfriend is telling the truth, and how can you tell that your boyfriend is lying to you?"

Psychic Advice:
Trust and honesty are the foundations of a strong and healthy relationship - this is true in all our relationships, whether they are with family, friends, business partners, spouses, colleagues, employees, etc. Unfortunately, some people have a tendency to lie in order to cover up their issues that stem from lack of self-esteem and self-worth.

Most people who lie are lying first and foremost to themselves. They feel ashamed for their actions, or inferior or inadequate regarding who they are, so they cover these feelings with lies to make themselves look and feel better. However, one cannot really lie to oneself, because we can never run or hide from who we believe we are, and what we believe we've done. Most people who lie are trying to justify their actions through lying, and then justify their lying to support their actions.

Lying makes most people uncomfortable - this is true both for the person lying and for the person being lied to. Therefore, there are signs to tell if someone is lying. Polygraph or "lie detector" tests can measure many of the impulses that a person gives off when they are lying, but we really don't need a machine to tell us if a person is lying or telling us the truth.

Noticing people's body language is one way to discover if they are telling the truth, or if they are lying. The eyes are the windows to the soul, and looking deeply into someone's eyes will tell you the truth about who they are, not just the truth of their words or actions. Looking at their right eye connects you with their ego, with their identity in this world and with their protection, but the left eye is truly the window into who they really are, so looking at their left eye will show their pain, fear, love, insecurity, etc., and can reveal if there are dishonest.

People who are lying often get jittery and fidgety, and tend to look down at the ground, or keep looking all around in order to avoid eye contact. If a person cannot look you in the eye, it is because they are uncomfortable about who they are or what they've said or done. Sometimes, avoiding eye contact can simply be an indication of shyness and insecurity, but if someone can never look you in the eye, you are best to keep your distance from that person, because they have difficulty with open and honest communication and intimacy. Someone who avoids eye contact is carrying deep issues of shame and guilt, and tremendous insecurity, and they will do whatever they can to hide themselves in order to keep themselves safe.

Some people get nervous and uncomfortable when speaking face to face, so it can be easier to speak to such people sitting or standing side-by-side. When we face each other, some people can feel intimidated and confronted, so they throw up shields in order to protect themselves. When we sit next to our friends and loved ones, these defenses tend to get lowered, allowing for deeper conversation. This can also be the case when walking side-by-side, especially in quiet or private places. You are more likely to get someone to speak the truth when they are more relaxed under these circumstances.

Again, if the person gets fidgety as you are speaking, or if they start to perspire, it is often because they are uncomfortable and hiding something. Another defensive tactic for liars is to get angry, indignant, offended, and attacking. Liars often try to deflect energy away from them, and will tend to try to wound the person confronting them so they won't confront them again. If someone immediately flies off the handle and erupts with overreaction when you mention something to them, it is often because they are lying, and are using their anger to manipulate you and get you to back off.

Another telltale sign of lying is for a person to become suddenly very secretive, or suddenly withdrawn, distant and uncommunicative. Liars also tend to grin or smirk rather than smiling, because they think they are getting away with something.

Some people lie simply because they think the truth will be uncomfortable, unacceptable, or hurtful to someone they care about. Lying is not always done out of malice or guilt, but often comes out of pain, and a desire to avoid further pain. Most liars are filled with remorse and regret, and they lie to avoid those feelings, and to avoid anyone discovering the reason for their shame and guilt. Liars are often tortured souls, because it takes a great deal of energy to perpetuate a lie.

There are many signs to tell if someone is lying, but you must learn to read some of those signs within yourself. We are constantly picking up energy from people around us, and that energy affects how we feel in our heart and in our body, and it can affect what we think. Most people do not take heed of the thoughts and feelings that arise when we are around other people, but this is one of the ways that our intuition communicates with us.

If someone's words, actions or behavior make you feel uncomfortable, you must learn to trust yourself above all else. If something inside you tells you that things don't feel quite right or true to you, it is because they probably aren't. Don't deny these feelings, or think that you are being silly or paranoid. Even if it turns out that the person may not have been actually lying to you, something inside you is not feeling right or comfortable with that person, which is indicating that being with that person is not your truth. When you love yourself, and learn to trust yourself and your own intuition, you will always be guided to the truth.
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