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THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO SEE RESULTS?

Question #1: "The Law of Attraction - how long does it take to see results?"

"Psychic Advice":
So many people ask this question with regard to the Law of Attraction - "How long does it take to see results?" The answer is that it depends on what you want, how much you want it, and what you are doing to attract it.

A lot of people tend to think that the Law of Attraction is simply like a wishing well - you write your wish down, and it should suddenly appear. Notice that the word "ACTION" is part of "attraction" - you must take action toward what you want in order for it to be drawn toward you.

Working with the Law of Attraction is not just about wish fulfillment, it is about understanding that your thoughts, words, feelings, and actions are always attracting your experiences to you - the Law of Attraction is constantly in effect in your life. If you want to attract something other than what you are currently experiencing, then you must change your thoughts, words, feelings AND actions to attract what you want.

There are several keys to living the laws of attraction. The first is to understand the "attention focus law of attraction", which simply means that whatever you focus your attention and energy on most of the time is what you will experience. The Law of Attraction is ruled by these three things: attention, energy and time. These are the three ingredients that are required in order to create, manifest and attract anything.

The "attention focus law of attraction" says that first, you must focus your attention on what you want to attract and create in your life. This is why it is good to make lists and vision boards that allow you to focus your attention on what you want - which is essentially putting your order in to the Universe so your guides can help you attract and create it.

The next step with the Law of Attraction involves energy: you must energize what you want with your feelings and emotions. You must feel excited and grateful for what you are creating in order to attract it, because your feelings and emotions are the magnets that draw your experiences to you. If you are depressed, you will draw more experiences that are on that same wavelength, because one of the laws of attraction is that like attracts like, or like energy attracts like energy. By the same token, if you feel joy and gratitude, you will attract more experiences that inspire joy and gratitude, which are powerfully attractive energies. Who would you be more attracted to, a person who is depressed, or a person who is radiating joy and gratitude?

The final step in manifestation with the Law of Attraction requires time. This is not just about having the patience to wait while the Universe cooks up your order, although patience always helps since things can manifest somewhat slowly in the third dimension. Actually, all time is now, so if you really focus enough attention (faith and belief) and enough energy (joy and gratitude) that you are attracting and creating all that you desire in this moment, then you can start to manifest more rapidly, even instantaneously (that is what we call miracles).

When I speak of time and energy with regard to the Law of Attraction, I am also referring to action and repetition. The more you focus your energy on taking action toward what you want to create, and the more you repeat that action upon time, the more you align yourself with manifesting and attracting what you want. Affirmations can play a great part in this, because they help you focus your attention on what you want, but you must put energy of emotion into those affirmations, and you must do them repeatedly and often. Always state your affirmations with gratitude for having that experience now, in the present moment - this will allow you to attract that experience as quickly as possible. For example, "I am grateful that I am now ..."

The most important part of the Law of Attraction is ACTION, which is the missing ingredient for most people. A lot of people who have watched or read "The Secret" will say that they've made their lists and vision boards and nothing happened. If you want to become a more fit person, sitting on the couch writing your lists, staring at your vision boards and making your affirmations will help, but it will take a commitment of energy and repeated action in order to get the best results. The Law of Attraction follows the laws of physics - for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction (or reflection). Every action you take is met in kind.

Everything in the Universe is energy, and all energy exists in either wave or particle form. When it is in wave form, it exists in the realm of all possibilities where it remains simply a potential; when it is in particle form, it exists in third dimensional reality where we can see it and touch it. In order to attract something from the realm of possibilities and potential into manifest form and reality, we must focus our attention, energy and time on it. Quantum physics tells us that simply by observing something by giving it our attention, we change it and bring it into form.

An energy wave consists of three things: wavelength, amplitude and frequency. In order to attract and manifest a certain thing or experience, we must make sure that we are on the same wavelength as that experience - we do that by focusing our thoughts and attention on that experience. Amplitude is the amount of energy there is in the wave - so we must make sure we put as much physical and emotional energy as possible into whatever we want to create by taking action and doing it with joy, gratitude and excitement. Frequency is the measure of how often the wave repeats - so it is important that you put time into your manifestation, and repeat it frequently.

These are the keys to living the laws of attraction: focus your attention on what you want to create, empower it with emotion and action, and do it frequently. That is how you will get the best and fastest results. So the real answer to the question regarding "the Law of Attraction and how long does it take to see results?" is that you will see results as soon as you wholeheartedly commit your attention, energy and time to what you want to create and attract.

Question #2: "I have manifested a man that fits many of my requirements that I have in a mate. My vision was clear enough to bring him to me, but I am wondering why I was not able to draw a man that is actually attracted to me. I thought that I had focused on him caring for me but he does not. Does free will get in the way of the Law of Attraction?"

"Psychic Advice":
Free Will can absolutely get in the way of the Law of Attraction, especially when it involves the Free Will of another person. We have no power over another person's choices or actions, and the Law of Attraction is not a magic spell to influence others. Every person has Free Will to choose what they experience for themselves.

Free Will is so powerful that it can override one's destiny and sacred contracts, at least for this lifetime. Your Free Will can get in your own way if you are afraid of attracting what you think you want - this often creates self-sabotage. In order to create, manifest and attract anything, you must align your heart, your mind and your will with your intention. You must also profoundly believe that you truly deserve to experience what you are choosing to attract.

Make your list of what kind of person you want to attract - what are the key qualities you are looking for in a mate. Write down everything you can think of, but don't limit yourself. If blue eyes are really important to you, then write them on the list, but if not, don't limit your possibilities. You can keep adding to this list as you think of new things, and as you encounter new people who inspire you with their attractive qualities, like the positive attributes of the man you recently attracted.

You can continue to change this list until you meet the person, but once you meet that person, don't think that you can change them. People will only change if they really want to change. Many people make the mistake of falling in love with someone's potential - they see that person having many great qualities that they find attractive, and they believe that they can "fix" the rest over time. The key statement you made in your question is that this man "fits many of the requirements" that you have for a mate, but not all the requirements - not even most of them.

The key thing is to look down your list and see what are the ten most important qualities you are looking for in a mate, then prioritize them from 1 to 10. Knowing this will allow you to know whether a person is even a potential candidate for your love and attention within the first few meetings, before your heart is involved. People often think they have to compromise with what they want and can't be "too picky", but of all the available qualities in the world, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with really should have the top ten qualities that are most important to you - at least the top eight.

The next thing to do is to make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in a relationship, and how you want to be treated. List the types of things that you want to do together and enjoy together, and even how you want to enjoy them. For instance, if you want to go hiking with your mate, do you want to meander through the forest talking about deep and meaningful things, or do you want it to be a silent meditation, or a workout, or a race to the top of the mountain? Each of these scenarios requires a different type of partner and partnership.

Next write down a list of what kind of lifestyle you want to have. Do you want to travel? If so, where? How? Do you want to lie on a beach in the Caribbean, or do you want to go on spiritual retreats? Would you like to work for someone else, work for yourself, or work together with your partner? Do you want to go to an office or work at home, or stay at home and raise children?

Once you have made your lists of what kind of lifestyle you want to have, what kind of relationship you want to have, and what qualities you are looking for in a partner, take time to look over these lists side by side to make sure they are in alignment and are not contradicting each other. For instance, someone who is very ambitious and has to travel for business all the time may have difficulty being an attentive mate or parent - this is not always the case, but it can pose challenges depending on what kind of relationship and lifestyle you want to have. A partnership with that kind of mate can be excellent if you want to travel with your partner and don't want children, or if you are someone who likes to have your own space and time by yourself while your partner is away.

Making these lists not only helps you to know yourself and what you really want in your life, it also places your order in to the Universe. Remember to let go of the outcome and let go of control once you've placed your order. You don't follow your server into the kitchen to check on your order in a restaurant - you wait patiently with excited anticipation to receive what you've ordered, trusting that you are going to get what you asked for. When you make your lists, affirm that you choose to experience "this or better", which allows your guides and angels to surprise you by giving you more than you could possibly imagine.

Remember that the Universe tends to take your requests very literally (always ask for what you really do want in the positive - don't ask for what you don't want). You have already experienced that there is a difference between focusing on someone who cares for you (which I'm sure the man you are attracted to does), versus calling for someone with whom there is a mutual attraction. I would further suggest that you ask for someone with whom you are mutually compatible and mutually attracted to on all levels - physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Most people look for physical attraction first, but that is not enough to sustain a lasting and fulfilling relationship. An ideal partnership is one in which you meet each other on all levels, and it is absolutely possible, as long as that is what you are asking for, looking for, and have faith in.

When it comes to the Law of Attraction and romance, you must understand that like attracts like, so you must be the person that you want to be with. Ask yourself what kinds of things would your ideal mate be interested in that you are also interested in? Where would that person be and what would he/she be doing? Be willing to stretch a little beyond your comfort zone to go out in the world and explore groups and activities aligned with what you would like to enjoy together as mutual interests. Don't become someone that you are not just to meet someone. For instance, don't go out golfing to look for a man if you don't like golfing, because if that is where you meet him, chances are he likes golfing and will want to do that a lot throughout your relationship.

Where you meet someone says a lot about who they are. If you meet someone in a sports bar, chances are that they like to drink, like to hang out with their friends, and like sports a lot - if any of those things are an issue for you, then that is not the ideal place to meet your mate. If you like philosophy, join a philosophy group. If you like certain sports, play those sports and join different groups. You can also meet people online, especially in forums with people who share your interests. Just remember that people online can take advantage of anonymity and pretend to be what they are not. If you join an online dating service, keep affirming in the positive and in the present that you are attracting everything that you want in a partner, and that you are protected from all else.

The keys to living the laws of attraction in romance involve knowing what you really want, believing that you can have it, feeling excited and grateful that you are attracting it, relaxing and trusting. Put yourself on the same wavelength as the person you want to attract, and visualize yourself enjoying sharing your life with that person and doing the things you love to do together. Feel the joy of having that person in your life now - feel your heart full, not empty or longing. Do not focus your energy on wanting, because that only leaves you wanting. Focus only on love, joy and gratitude for all that you are and all that you have. Fill yourself with love so you radiate love in order to attract love. Love yourself so you can attract someone who loves you. Affirm that you are attracting someone who has ALL of the qualities that are most important to you with whom you share a mutual attraction on all levels. Have faith and patience that you will have the love that you believe you deserve, and so you Will.

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